Connecting to your Motherhood Values

To qualify for jobs that impact others, we’re often required to complete coursework, clinical hours, or pass licensing exams. Parenthood, however, comes with no such prerequisites, yet it carries a responsibility unlike any other. I can think of no role that requires more or has a greater impact on human lives. As parents, we are among the most influential figures in our children’s lives. The interactions we share with them can shape the course of their lives in both positive and challenging ways.

In idealized TV portrayals, parents seem perfect—they always say and do the right things. In reality, though, parents, like all humans, are imperfect. We all carry unique histories that have shaped who we are today. These past experiences, and any flaws they may have created, aren’t our fault or responsibility; we had no control over them. However, parenthood brings a profound responsibility to strive for better—for the sake of the new lives entrusted to us.

This week, I’d like us to explore a powerful concept: values. Reflecting on our values can guide us in becoming the kind of mothers we aspire to be. By focusing on what truly matters to us, we can let our values act as guideposts along our motherhood journeys. In the rush of daily responsibilities, this exercise offers a chance to reconnect with our intentions.

Values Exercise:

Each morning, take a few moments to reflect on your values as a mother for that day. Consider how you want to act as a mother and what qualities you wish to embody.

Then, set one or two small, intentional goals that align with your values (e.g., reading a book to your child, dancing with them, etc.).

As you engage in this practice, remember to approach it with compassion. We are human, and sometimes we’ll achieve our goals, while other days we may fall short. Even with our best efforts, we can’t be perfect parents—nor should we strive to be. The most important thing is that we do our best in each moment and remind ourselves that each day brings a new opportunity to grow on this journey of motherhood.